I've taught woodturning since 2006. Teaching made me a better turner, because I had to 'reverse think' how I did every movement, with my body and the tool. This practice made me more aware of what I did, how and why, so that I could explain it to another student, in a 'language' they understood.
When I was learning, many of the books, and club members talked about the position of the tool being at (for example) 45 degrees. I'm math impaired, so that was always a puzzling description for me. I found another way, using an analog clock. I place the gouge on the tool rest with the flute facing straight up. I tell the student that position is 12 o'clock. I rotate the tool three times slightly to the right, and each rotation puts the flute at 1 o'clock, 2 o'clock and 3 o'clock. It's a visual aide that they can see and is familiar to the majority of people. I return the flute back to 12 o'clock and do the same thing rotating the tool to the left; 11 o'clock, 10 o'clock and 9 o'clock.
The next time you are turning, and find that sweet spot, pay attention to the position of the flute. You now have a visual aide of what to look for in your tool position and it will be easier to find that sweet spot again. Eventually that will become muscle memory; you will no longer consciously think about where the sweet spot is, your body will find it on its own.
In a group setting with 6 or 8 students, I need to pay attention to a lot of things simultaneously. I'm working with one student, glancing at another, and listening to the sounds that all the tools are making. I can hear when a student is close to getting a catch and reminding a student on the other side of the room to put their flute at 10 o'clock, sometimes keeps them from making that bowl fly off the lathe.